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Quiet! Shut Your Mouth . . .   Leave a comment

The blog title is from a Missy Elliot song, it’s been in my head all week which is weird because I don’t normally listen to rap. But I digress . . .

Today’s question is this: When a friend gets in fight with their husband/boyfriend and then that friend comes to you to COMPLAIN about said husband/boyfriend, what should you do? Well, I typically go the route of “That bastard! I can’t believe he did that!” or “You’re way too good for him, he doesn’t do anything to help you out anyway.” Which is what I think needs to be said, or what I think my friend wants me to say.

But apparently, whatever you say will be held against you in a court of friendship. After the smoke clears, the friend wants to discuss what you said about her husband/boyfriend and that your comments were not appreciated. Well, they sure as hell were appreciated by you while I was saying them!

Now, I’ve never been what you’d call a “social butterfly” so I sometimes make social faux pas. But honestly, what is the correct response when your friend is vomiting words on you about someone else? “I understand, I’m sorry” just doesn’t seem to cut it. They want to draw you into their frustration which I completely DO understand. A good old-fashioned bitch session is sometimes the answer to all life’s problems.

So in the future, I will try to just steer clear of all drama-inducing, emotion-spewing arguments and conversations that don’t directly include me. 🙂

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Posted April 21, 2013 by Lunchtime Enlightenment in People, Thoughts

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Lucky Me   Leave a comment

Fridays are always great (as they are for most people) because it’s always a quiet, down-time kind of day. Usually over my lunch breaks on Fridays, I work out with my friend Kate and we catch up on what’s going on in life while we sweat out our frustrations and tension.

However, I had to bail on her today because a good-looking guy called me up to see if I wanted to have lunch with him. To clarify, that was my husband, not some random stranger who called. We rarely have dates without the kids (is a date WITH the kids still considered a date, or is that just an “outing”?) so these little stolen lunch breaks are something we like. We caught up on each other’s job, life in general, family issues, our great kids, and just enjoyed talking, uninterrupted.

So thanks Kate for giving me a bye this week on boxing. We’ll do it again next week! To my husband, thanks for a short but sweet date. 🙂

Enlightenment:

  • Quality versus quantity on dates.
  • Good friends are understanding.

Posted February 3, 2012 by Lunchtime Enlightenment in Food, People, Thoughts

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Date Lunch   Leave a comment

Today I was lucky enough to meet up with my awesome hubby for a couple of burritos. I didn’t really have plans for lunch (other than waste time at Crafts Direct) so it was nice that he called to offer.

So we sat in the car, ate, and chatted about things that we normally don’t get to chat about when the kids are around: money, jobs, life in general. It was a nice mini-date.

Then we hopped into Kohl’s to see if we could find a pair of dress shoes for our son. The kids have a Christmas concert tomorrow at school and I just don’t think his nice dressy outfit will look complete with tennis shoes. Luckily, we found a cute, versatile pair that were originally $36, but we got them for $16. Once again, I love Kohl’s. And my husband. 🙂

Happy Monday everyone!

Enlightenment:

  • Treasure every moment when it means enhancing good communication as well.
  • Kohl’s has good deals.

Posted December 12, 2011 by Lunchtime Enlightenment in People, Places

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Subching   Leave a comment

Yeah, I was trying to find a witty way to combine Subway with lunching, hence: “Subching”. It doesn’t roll off your tongue like some words do, but it still looks cool.

So guess where I went to lunch today? If you guessed Subway, you are very observant and awesome. My husband and I made up for our missed lunch day from Monday. It’s only a half hour, but it’s better than nothing. Plus it actually seems longer because we are able to talk more with less kid interruptions, thereby covering a larger amount of topics.

Today, our topics were: work, family, daycare, school, and family. We had serious conversations today, not witty and lighthearted like we normal. But it’s okay because some things needed to be discussed. Like: why some days our daycare seems to want to chat like crazy and other days she is helping us out the door. Or whether or not I should have a Tastefully Simple party, which involves house cleaning and prep work. Or how I get the “wife of the month” award while he’s deer hunting. Or how my online instructor for a current class doesn’t get back to me on an assignment that’s due tomorrow. Or how I’m lucky to have such a great husband. See? All very important stuff. 🙂

It was nice to get out of the office for a bit today because even though it’s cooler, it’s still sunny which feels good through windows.

Enlightenment:

  • If you have a spouse that loves you for all your quirks, DON’T LET THEM GO.
  • Appreciate little stolen moments of togetherness, no matter who they’re with.

 

Posted November 9, 2011 by Lunchtime Enlightenment in People, Places

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