The blog title is from a Missy Elliot song, it’s been in my head all week which is weird because I don’t normally listen to rap. But I digress . . .
Today’s question is this: When a friend gets in fight with their husband/boyfriend and then that friend comes to you to COMPLAIN about said husband/boyfriend, what should you do? Well, I typically go the route of “That bastard! I can’t believe he did that!” or “You’re way too good for him, he doesn’t do anything to help you out anyway.” Which is what I think needs to be said, or what I think my friend wants me to say.
But apparently, whatever you say will be held against you in a court of friendship. After the smoke clears, the friend wants to discuss what you said about her husband/boyfriend and that your comments were not appreciated. Well, they sure as hell were appreciated by you while I was saying them!
Now, I’ve never been what you’d call a “social butterfly” so I sometimes make social faux pas. But honestly, what is the correct response when your friend is vomiting words on you about someone else? “I understand, I’m sorry” just doesn’t seem to cut it. They want to draw you into their frustration which I completely DO understand. A good old-fashioned bitch session is sometimes the answer to all life’s problems.
So in the future, I will try to just steer clear of all drama-inducing, emotion-spewing arguments and conversations that don’t directly include me. 🙂